What if everything you ever did was right for the moment?
You're not wrong. You've never been wrong. Everything is in its right place. How does that feel? The words above come from a talk I was listening to by Rikka Zimmerman. Talk was light and fun and those words really felt great to hear and feel.
Why do these words feel so good?
I realized the words felt so good, because of all the time I've spent worrying, "did I do the right thing, f@#! me I screwed up again and others are depending on me, Ug that person is so much more knowledgeable than me... I will never measure up, I wonder what those people are thinking of me." Letting go of all those thoughts, I feel at ease.
Arrrrrrrrgggggggg, these thoughts mess me up so what is their purpose?
I believe ultimately we all want to feel love and give love and be love. And I believe we are all naturally moving in a more loving direction, although, we often get in our own way. Our less than positive thoughts can have a place in our lives as long as we don't get stuck repeating them. One of the presuppositions of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is "there are no mistakes, there is only feedback". So ideally we would focus on these thoughts for a fraction of a second, make course corrections in our lives, and move in a direction that feels more loving and empowering. For example, when I'm angry, because I didn't stand up for myself with my boss, lover, or friend, I can decide to learn assertiveness and act differently in the situation next time.
Ha, ha, ha! If only it were that easy. Can it be?
Most of our actions occur without us thinking about them based on belief patterns that most often developed during childhood, and are stored at a subconscious level. Most of the time this is useful so that our heart keeps beating and we can dress ourselves without thinking too much, but if we have actions we want to change it gets tricky. We changed our kitchen around a few years ago and it took months before I stopped going to the wrong cupboard for bowls. This is the work of the subconscious mind. So deciding to act more assertively next time doesn't always mean it will happen. We can change, though, and it can be smooth with the right tools. From my experiences, I have found NLP and hypnosis to be two of the most powerful ares for changing subconscious beliefs. You can find practitioners who can help you with belief changes, but you can also do a lot of the work on your own. Search the web for self hypnosis and you will get a lot of free information. Go to http://www.naturalhypnosis.com and you can received free sample mp3s. I'm also a fan of Steve G. Jones' audio programs. When you join his email list you will receive special offers, some recordings discounted as low as 1 dollar. The audio programs I listen to lately involve music that uses positive subliminal messages mixed with binaural beats to create brainwave patters that make one's brain receptive to taking in information. I know that is a mouthful, but I find, when I use this music on a regular basis, it is very effective. I've been feeling more relaxed lately and a lot more confident and success driven.
Are there some Quick Tricks for immediate change?
So I know all that above, but I want to get these thoughts out of my head now. Part of the problem may lie in our body. Because of our busy, stressful lives we are more often living off the fight or flight response and depending on adrenalin to keep us going. An increase in cortisol in the body, which is generally thought of as the stress hormone, may be partly responsible for our racing thoughts. Doing activities like exercising, meditation, yoga or deep belly breathing can calm our body down and lead to a calmer mind. Personally, I've really been focusing on my breathing. A few deep breaths and I can really feel my body relax. It's hard to measure just how much this is adding to my calmer attitude, but I think it's a stacking process. Keep using tools that help a little bit and they add up to a big change. Exercise is also so important to my emotional health. The tricky thing is, at the time I need it most, I often don't feel like exercising. So its important to realize how helpful this tool is or whatever tool you are using so you can make it a part of your lifestyle. Almost 100 percent of the time I am so glad I went for a run and feel so much better after. Another very simple yet effective tool for clearing our minds is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I won't go into too much detail, but you can look up more information on it. I've only started using EFT but I've found it to be very effective for both clearing my negative feelings and building confidence. I'd heard about it from a few people over the last few years, but brushed it off. This year I finally tried it out and it works so check it out. One of my favorite teachers of EFT is Brad Yates.
Benefits of a Peaceful Mind
And the great thing about being in a peaceful state, besides the fact that you feel great, is the amazingly positive impact you have on others. I know when I'm in a peaceful state I am more apt to help out around the house, give money or lunch to the homeless, and have joyous conversations with strangers. It's also so much easier to take inspired action when in this state. When I'm feeling great I eat healthier, exercise more, get my to do list done and so on. So loving ourselves and taking care of our mind can have a tremendously powerful impact on the world.
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