Anything You Want, You Got It

Over the course of my life, I have had some pretty profound moments. One of the most profound things that ever happened to me was being visited in my dreams by a deceased loved one. While I am a firm believer that life is full of signals, messages, and opportunities, it's not always easy to understand their hidden meanings. However, when you take the leap of faith and respond to these messages, watch out because life starts getting really interesting!

I now use this concept, "defining what it is you want," in my coaching practice where I help my clients transform their lives, heal their ailments, and pursue their dreams.

When I was just twenty-one years of age, my boyfriend past away. I was devastated. As you can imagine, I was heartbroken and my life had extremely fallen apart. Years after the incident, my deceased boyfriend visited me in my dreams on a regular basis. However, I was unable to "communicate" with him because in these dreams I was not able to stop crying. I just missed him so much.

Every time he would show up in my dream he tried to talk to me, and finally, he realized "talking" was out of the question. So he began singing to me to help calm me down.

One of the songs he sang to me was: Anything You Want, You Got It by Roy Orbison. Although this was definitely a subliminal message from him; at the time I didn't understand its meaning. I just knew that I felt fetter after he sang the song to me. Years later, I remembered this dream when it dawned on me what the message he was trying to share stood for.

That message being that you can have anything you want. Anything. Everything. Without A Doubt. So I weaved this lesson into everything I did. And with great surprise, I started getting what I wanted out of life.

One of the main things to getting what you want out of life is to know what you want. The second thins is to hire a coach or a mentor to help you stay motivated while holding you accountable to reaching your goals.

I find it very peculiar that as a baby or child, we have no problem kicking and scream to get what it is we want, but as adults we easily become complacent and settle for mediocrity. Why is that?

Once I found a mentor, my life took a drastic turn. It literally turned my life around. A mentor is someone who inspires you, helps you see the bigger picture, and is your biggest cheerleader. If you struggle with staying motivated or have a hard time getting clear about what you want so you can start going after it in a strategic way, find someone with excellent energy to mentor you.

There energy is vital to YOUR success because everything in life is made of energy. So in order to increase your vibration and have the Law of Attraction hard at work for you, taking in the energy of those around you who are authentically your biggest cheerleaders helps you reach your goals faster and with less effort. To watch an idea turn into something life altering is one of the most fascinating parts of life. And to be honest, my life will never be the same.

What Can A Relationship Counselor Do For Your Relationship?

If a relationship is in trouble then seeing a relationship counselor is always an option. But what exactly can a relationship counselor do for your relationship? Many couples shrug off relationship counseling because they don't understand the process or how helpful it can be. Here is a little insight into what this type of counselor might be able to do for your relationship.

Help You Communicate

Communication is essential for a healthy relationship. This isn't news. The problem is that many couples don't know how to communicate effectively. Between one person's mouth and the other person's ears messages become distorted and communication fails. When this happens, the relationship often starts failing along with it. A relationship counselor can teach you how to communicate while identifying exactly what is keeping you from communicating effectively now. In many cases, communication that is open, honest, and fruitful can restore a relationship that looks far gone.

Help You Stop Destructive Patterns

A relationship counselor can help you to identify and stop destructive patterns whether those patterns have to do with the above topic of communication or if they lie somewhere else in your relationship. For example, a sex therapist can help you with issues in your sex life. In more general terms, have you ever noticed that you keep having the same fights or that both partners continue doing other things that hurt the relationship even though these actions make things worse and not better? A good counselor or sex therapist can help you to figure out what the patterns are and stop them before they play out again.

Help You Face The Real Issues

The most important thing that you can learn to do with relationship counseling is to face the real issues. Too often small irritations take center stage when the root of the problem is something much larger. Fights over who cleans more can be symptoms of one partner not feeling supported, feeling responsible for everything, or not trusting their partner to do what it takes to make the relationship work. If you want to get to real issues like these a relationship counselor or a properly trained life coach can help.

Help You With Your Sex Life

Problems with a relationship tend to find their way into the bedroom. A sex therapist is a type of therapist who can help you to work through sexual intimacy issues. These issues can be a big factor in relationship problems and a sex therapist can help you deal with them to achieve a fulfilling sex life.

A relationship counselor can help you to make your relationship work. It can be hard when you're on the inside of a relationship to see what isn't working but a professional counselor or life coach with an outside perspective can work with you to identify problems and fix them. This is no small feat but it is exactly what relationship counselors do.

Is Achieving Corporate Success A Simple Case Of Mind Over Matter?

Mind over Matter is a term used to encourage people to take action and do things they had previously shied away from or they don't want to do. It is commonly used by self-help groups or motivational speakers to encourage people in confronting their worst fears with skills of mind control and enhancement. Mind over matter is a basis of positive thinking mentality, emphasizing on mind power in overcoming the physical power described by quantum mechanics.

Mind over matter is a new way of thinking in the world of corporate management and academics. Studies in technology have been presumed to prove that discovery in quantum mechanics has a relationship with the human mind that the more discoveries are made on quantum technology; the more the mind power humans have to create a better world.

Discoveries in the modern science are proving the skeptics of psychics wrong that, in fact, the mind has an effect on the material world. And therefore, human poses mind over matter, making it a necessary to learn training the mind to think positively. However, before the future discoveries were made, it is true that cooperate success can be achieved by the way of management; making decisions to move forward.

By discovering that the most important assets to a company are the employees, is a case of mind over matter. Therefore, investing in the mind of employees can be a secret to success. This can be done using various mind techniques, e.g. by emphasizing, repetition and working on emotions. In addition, visualizing the process and achievements as an internal power for self-propulsion, perseverance and personal discipline, makes the wish factor into an achievable reality.

The use of mind over matter techniques develops the corporate culture and attitude of "can do", without minding about the circumstances at hand. In the current and future corporate society, competition is and will become more viscous and brutal. Therefore, without a motivated state of mind, or without an emphasis over the mind over matter culture, a company cannot sustain itself.

Corporate success should never be considered in behavioral terms; in mind over matter, employee empowerment ought to be looked at as a culture (or part of culture) of the organization and organizations should emphasize on communication and willing mind to serve.

When individuals want to work for the corporation instead of looking for the job to earn some money for their pockets, they are in fact under influence of mind over matter. Being empowered with an enhanced mind comes with the ability to adapt to a situation, to learn new skills and the power to push the system of production to achieve what seems to be impossible in normal state of mind, especially putting into consideration that competitors may not have this concept into their system.

Achievers in corporate world understand how to enhance the powerful mind of success through mind over matter succession factors that tends to bend to reality. The visualized image provides the mind power for sustainable physical effort within the available time frame for a targeted achievement. Therefore, mind over matter sharpens and enhances one to hone and harness the success power.

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Personal Choice - Weight Loss

Simply ejecting your rear from the couch means your hand will spend less time digging into a bag of chocolate chip cookies.

That is the simple but profound finding of a new Northwestern Medicine study, which reports simply changing one bad habit has a domino effect on others. Knock down your sedentary leisure time and you'll reduce junk food and saturated fats because you're no longer glued to the TV and noshing. It's a two-for-one benefit because the behaviors are closely related.

The study also found the most effective way to rehab a delinquent lifestyle requires two key behavior changes: cutting time spent in front of a TV or computer screen and eating more fruits and vegetables.

"Just making two lifestyle changes has a big overall effect and people don't get overwhelmed," said Bonnie Spring, a professor of preventive medicine at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, and lead author of the study published in Archives of Internal Medicine.

"Americans have all these unhealthy behaviors that put them at high risk for heart disease and cancer, but it is hard for them and their doctors to know where to begin to change those unhealthy habits," Spring said. "This approach simplifies it."

With this simplified strategy, people are capable of making big lifestyle changes in a short period of time and maintaining them, according to the study.

Spring wanted to figure out the most effective way to spur people to change common bad health habits: eating too much saturated fat and not enough fruits and vegetables, spending too much sedentary leisure time and not getting enough physical activity.

She and colleagues randomly assigned 204 adult patients, ages 21 to 60 years old, with all those unhealthy habits into one of four treatments. The treatments were: increase fruit/vegetable intake and physical activity, decrease fat and sedentary leisure, decrease fat and increase physical activity, and increase fruit/vegetable intake and decrease sedentary leisure.

During the three weeks of treatment, patients entered their daily data into a personal digital assistant and uploaded it to a coach who communicated as needed by telephone or email.

Participants could earn $175 for meeting goals during the three-week treatment phase. But when that phase was completed, patients no longer had to maintain the lifestyle changes in order to be paid. They were simply asked to send data three days a month for six months and received $30 to $80 per month.

"We said we hope you'll continue to keep up these healthy changes, but you no longer have to keep them up to be compensated," Spring said.

The results over the next six months amazed Spring. "We thought they'd do it while we were paying them, but the minute we stopped they'd go back to their bad habits," she said. "But they continued to maintain a large improvement in their health behaviors."

From baseline to the end of treatment to the end of the six-month follow-up, the average servings of fruit/vegetables changed from 1.2 to 5.5 to 2.9; average minutes per day of sedentary leisure went from 219.2 to 89.3 to 125.7 and daily calories from saturated fat from 12 percent to 9.4 percent to 9.9 percent.

About 86 percent of participants said once they made the change, they tried to maintain it. There was something about increasing fruits and vegetables that made them feel like they were capable of any of these changes," Spring said. "It really enhanced their confidence."

"We found people can make very large changes in a very short amount of time and maintain them pretty darn well," Spring said. "It's a lot more feasible than we thought."

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Do You Ever Talk To Strangers?

What! Talk to strangers? Me? Not a chance. And to talk to someone of the opposite sex? Even less of a chance. In fact, I wouldn't even dream of it.

You're at a party and you see this chap standing on his own. Wouldn't you be tempted to go over to him and strike up a conversation? The two basic reasons why you wouldn't start up a conversation are fear and shyness.

"Suppose they don't like me?"

"I don't know what to say."

There goes the old imagination at work again. Why shouldn't he like you? He's never met you before. But what is this fear people have of approaching others 'cold'? Perhaps they're afraid of saying the wrong thing. But unless they open with a line like; "I've been watching you from the other side of the room, and you've a mouth as big as the Cheddar Gorge," it's unlikely you will say the wrong thing.

Just; "Good evening. I saw you standing on your own, just like me." No-one can take offense at that and the person you've spoken to is probably very pleased that someone's actually spoken to him.

The first thing to do is to smile. Don't approach the poor bloke as though you intend to do him an injury. Try to put a genuine smile on your face first and then approach him. Smiles are infectious. The chances are that if you smile, he'll flash one back. So break the ice with a smile, open the conversation and see where it leads.

When he answers, don't feel so relieved that you start chakkering away like a monkey at him. Conversations are two way streets.

Now, it is true that you never know what you're getting yourself into. He may be a perfectly happy, cheerful man who just wants a good chat about generalities. On the other hand, his wife may just have left him and before you know it, he may start to cry his eyes out.

All right. But at least you've opened the conversation, which is the whole object of the exercise. Assuming he's a perfectly well balanced chap, show an interest in what he's saying. Ask the occasional question about what he does, so that he can see that you're genuinely interested, (even if you aren't!).

Another useful tool is humour, but here you have to tread carefully. There are few things worse that the stand up comedian routine. I knew a bloke like that. He could come out with one joke after another. The six most dreaded words in the English language are; "oh, yes, that reminds me of... " Actually, I knew him well enough to tell him to shut up or I'd wring his neck, but you can't always do that.

Another thing you should avoid at all costs is 'Dutch courage'. Well, you think to yourself, I'll just have a couple or three slugs of Scotch and I'll be able to chat to a mountain gorilla. Now, the trouble is that you may think you're fine.

The poor chap you've chosen to talk to is going to notice in no time that he's in for a drunken ramble and will make good his escape.

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News Flash - Being Annoyed Is Not Fatal

If you are what you eat, then clearly you've had 2 heaping bowls of annoying today.

Here is the news flash as promised. Feeling annoyed? Are you surrounded by others that annoy you? Finding yourself irritated by the noise and chatter and conversation day in and day out until you roll your eyes heavenward as a desperate plea with the powers that be?

BEING ANNOYED IS NOT FATAL.

There I said it. At what point did we decide as a people that we just could not tolerate the person in front of us at the check-out counter who is asking the clerk a question or worse yet inquiring of the clerk how that new grand baby is? How did we come to a place as a society where because we are annoyed by another's driving that our first and best response is to honk, hit the window button and extend our middle finger? Or, why do we think that 2 sentences in to another's conversation with us we have to stop them and exclaim that certainly we do not want to hear THAT! Here is something I hear people of all ages offer frequently of late..."How annoying is THAT?" Clearly a rhetorical question.

You know what is annoying? The lack of patience and grace we are offering one another. Perhaps the young mother undergoing chemo and radiation finds it annoying that while she is hoping to save herself from an early exit from this earthly plane she finds herself stuck in the bathroom vomiting when she would like to be spending quality time with family. It may be that the bereaved individual that has just lost a child to tragic circumstances finds it more than annoying when discussing their loss the alleged listener references losing their goldfish the year prior.

There is little argument that each and every single blessed day there are people and loved ones and circumstances that present themselves full on in our face that make us want to reach for our hair and yank from the roots. Perhaps since we are all experiencing a high level of these moments we can consider shifting the kind of energy that we expend on our daily and multitudinous annoyances.

The next time you are faced with the crazy and inattentive driver and you feel your middle finger begin to twitch. Take a deep breath and silently bless them. Find yourself listening to your cherubic teen waxing philosophical with endless inserts of the word..."like"? Take two deep breaths and listen with your whole person. Hear what he or she is not saying. Look into their eyes and see them reaching out attempting to make a connection with you. Start asking yourself some key questions the next time your family member has left out the milk for the upteenth time despite their promises to put it away. Will this annoyance take more energy away from my joy quotient? This is not to say in any fashion that there are not times when our truth needs to be spoken and even with some frankness in a constructive manner. It may be that we need to spend time thinking on a scale of 1-10 how annoying a person or situation is in the grand scheme of things. The grand scheme from my perspective has become quite grand and filled with critical decision making for all of us.

Be gentle with yourself so that you may be gentle with others. Even or especially the most annoying among us. Those who are perpetually annoying suffer from something that most of us would not wish on our worst enemy. They know that something is amiss but their lack of self-awareness keeps them from knowing just what that something is and how to remedy it. Their sense of isolation and desperation only makes them, yes, more annoying and unable to make connections. It may even behoove us to consider the remote possibility that we are just that annoying to others.

The question becomes...is the energy I will expend to roll my eyes and clinch my teeth and create the knot in my stomach worth it? Will I feel better in mind, body and spirit if I express my annoyance or will I steel myself for bigger and thorny complications if I use these day to day annoyances as a rehearsal for the truly larger and more difficult matters.

Here's the thing. The disappointments and annoyances we experience on a smaller scale truly are frustrating. They provide for us however a tremendous stage with which to get our chops in shape so to speak. In the divine wisdom of this earthly creation we have been given opportunities again and again to assess what works, what does not work and what works better. This aids us in knowing how to react when it truly heads south on the speed track.

May patience descend upon us when we need it most. May those moments of patience feel so much better in our soul that we utilize it again and again.

And as we do? We all benefit.

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How To Enjoy the Present and Get Out of the Past

I once saw a photograph of the 1950's that showed bears in a national park leaning on a car and looking in the window as the sight seers were taking pictures of them with their windows down. The caption under the picture read, "Even bears were nicer back then."

We often hear people longing for the good ole' days. But were the good ole' days really that good? Is the present really all that rotten?

Better Interest Rates Now
In the early 80's interest rates were about 15% or more. The payment for a $100,000 house on a thirty year mortgage would have been $1,680.61 per month. You would have paid $345,449.85 in interest after 30 years. The total amount you would have paid after 30 years would have been $492,699,85.

Today at 4% on a $100,000 dollar house you would pay $581.58 per month. You will pay $67,119.51 in interest after 30 years. The total amount you will pay after 30 years is $209,361.51. Are these really the bad ole' days.

Better Unemployment Rates Now
In 1981 unemployment was above 10% for more than 10 months. Unemployment rose above 10% for only one month recently. The story goes on and on.

Better Cancer Therapy Now
Just a few decades certain cancers were an automatic death sentence, but now they are usually cured through modern medical advancements. If you needed an organ transplant a few years ago you were out of luck. Now there are many lives saved through organ transplants that have become routine procedure.

Better Heart Surgery Now
In many cases certain heart surgeries are outpatient, whereas a few short years ago any heart surgery put you in the hospital for days and sometimes weeks.

Better Cars Now
My dad's 1968 Oldsmobile Delmont 88 died at 125,000 mile mark. We thought that was amazing. Most cars were dead by the 60,000 to 75, 000 mile mark. Now, it is no big deal if a car gets 150,000 to 250,000 miles. Were those really the good ole' days.

The Bible warns us about looking at the past and wishing we were there.

1.The Israelis looked back to Egypt where they had been slaves and wished they were there again. They didn't like the responsibility of freedom.

2.; Lot's wife looked back to the burning cities of Sodom and Gomorrah and longed to go back to a city that had become lawless and violent. A city where her daughters were raped and abused. She became a pillar of salt. Her death led to her husband committing incest with his other daughters in order to produce a family. The Moabties and the Ammonites were the result.

Jesus Warned Us About Glorifying the Past

In Luke 9:62 Jesus said, "No man after putting his hand to the plow, if he keeps looking back, is fit or prepared for ruling in the Kingdom of God". Let's quit looking back and look forward with new vision and rule and reign in Christ.

I'll guarantee you that bears in the 1950's were as deadly as bears today!

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